Not surprised that they are a "she". Guys tend to be more aggressive in their questioning, and guys are also more likely to be considered a rival (to other guys

Not surprised that they are a "she". Guys tend to be more aggressive in their questioning, and guys are also more likely to be considered a rival (to other guys, at least). To make this gender neutral: When questioning, don't be aggressive, and try to obfuscate that you are a potential rival.