I always recommend coffee shops (even if you drink tea/milk/whatever) over bars. Come regularly, stay off your phone, sit where you can see the room (and be see

I always recommend coffee shops (even if you drink tea/milk/whatever) over bars. Come regularly, stay off your phone, sit where you can see the room (and be seen by others, particularly coming in the door), and have a smile and nod for everyone. The acquaintances you make in the coffee shop will lead you to the next step to integrate with the community. This said, it sounds like you've moved somewhere that isn't "you". You can't fix your neighbors insular nature, or their tendency to drive, or the community /volunteer opportunities that don't speak to you. I recommend putting your efforts to finding a place you like, then work on friends there. P.s., You may not find the friends you expect. Keep an open mind.