None of which means that you're not allowed to have gripes. Yes, yelling and getting pissed at maintainers for not having the feature you want is counter-produ

None of which means that you're not allowed to have gripes. Yes, yelling and getting pissed at maintainers for not having the feature you want is counter-productive. But all OP did was outline some issues that have pushed them away from contributing to FOSS projects as much as they'd like, and you reacted as if they were demanding free labor.