I've found the experience when people are explicitly requested to never do this (feign surprise) to be excellent; for example, Recurse Center: https://www.recur

I've found the experience when people are explicitly requested to never do this (feign surprise) to be excellent; for example, Recurse Center: https://www.recurse.com/manual#sub-sec-social-rules https://www.recurse.com/manual#sub-sec-social-rules