> There's no reason to frame the relationship as adversarial It is, by definition, adversarial because their interests and mine are in direct conflict - I want

> There's no reason to frame the relationship as adversarial It is, by definition, adversarial because their interests and mine are in direct conflict - I want the largest salary I can get; they want to pay me the lowest salary they can. There are more ways that their interests and my interests are in conflict - this is just the most obvious. That said, just because something is adversarial that doesn't mean it needs to be acrimonious.