downvoting, which is only going to make someone feel attacked, alienated and misunderstood that's how i felt initially when i got downvotes. but eventually i g

downvoting, which is only going to make someone feel attacked, alienated and misunderstood that's how i felt initially when i got downvotes. but eventually i got used to it and as time went on i noticed that comments that were downvoted were usually more opinionated in the sense that it was reasonable and to be expected for someone to disagree. and realizing that made it much easier to accept the downvote as just that, a disagreement. now it gets really interesting when i get a downvote and later an upvote. then i always wonder did the initial downvoter change their mind, or did someone else upvote. sometimes i'd really like to know. for myself i downvote comments that i strongly disagree with and also comments that demonstrate a lack of understanding of the comment they respond to, or look like they are not reading the parent comment in good faith, or are belaboring their point, especially when it is clear that the other party already understood them the first time. in other words i downvote what i think are bad contributions to a discussion.