3 ms·

Serious question - why dont you just not let your daughter use these apps ? My kids not old enough to want to use them yet, but knowing what i know, she wont ha

Serious question - why dont you just not let your daughter use these apps ? My kids not old enough to want to use them yet, but knowing what i know, she wont have access until she is 18, by then, you have no control anyways

cmrdporcupine 3y ago
You will know when your children start to reach adolescence. It's a story as old as parenting itself. You don't control your children. They are products only first of the family they are born to, but very rapidly -- probably around kindergarten -- they become primarily products of the society they are in. You can try to block it all you want. It won't work, unless you have some sort of extra compliant child. Which has its own clear downsides.
- misiti3780 3y ago
  I guess I will find out, blocking TicTok seems pretty straight forward until highschool
  - cmrdporcupine 3y ago
    I'd go for tumblr, pinterest, reddit, and twitter as well, I'm sorry to say.
r3trohack3r 3y ago
I have every intention of encouraging my daughter to read books like Hooked[1] to understand why these experiences are designed the way they are. I have every intention of helping her develop a personal philosophy that helps her navigate through the world in the face of easy access to variable rate reward systems, opioids, amphetamines, etc. But she lives in a society full of the consequences of these things. Sheltering her from it won't shelter her from it. It's prolific, she's going to be exposed to it regardless. At friends houses, at school, at the mall. It is everywhere. Her social groups are going to be deep into the dark well of these variable rate reward systems, their character and behaviors defined by their interactions with this technology. And she will be interacting with those kids. Prohibition is not a solution. By the time she is 18, either she has a personal philosophy that keeps her from overdosing on this nonsense without supervision or I've failed as a parent. But, at all costs, my daughter will be free: http://www.blankenship.io/essays/2023-10-09/ http://www.blankenship.io/essays/2023-10-09/ [1] https://www.amazon.com/Hooked-How-Build-Habit-Forming-Products/dp/1591847788 https://www.amazon.com/Hooked-How-Build-Habit-Forming-Produc...

cmrdporcupine 3y ago

You will know when your children start to reach adolescence. It's a story as old as parenting itself. You don't control your children. They are products only first of the family they are born to, but very rapidly -- probably around kindergarten -- they become primarily products of the society they are in. You can try to block it all you want. It won't work, unless you have some sort of extra compliant child. Which has its own clear downsides.

misiti3780 3y ago
I guess I will find out, blocking TicTok seems pretty straight forward until highschool
- cmrdporcupine 3y ago
  I'd go for tumblr, pinterest, reddit, and twitter as well, I'm sorry to say.

r3trohack3r 3y ago

I have every intention of encouraging my daughter to read books like Hooked[1] to understand why these experiences are designed the way they are. I have every intention of helping her develop a personal philosophy that helps her navigate through the world in the face of easy access to variable rate reward systems, opioids, amphetamines, etc. But she lives in a society full of the consequences of these things. Sheltering her from it won't shelter her from it. It's prolific, she's going to be exposed to it regardless. At friends houses, at school, at the mall. It is everywhere. Her social groups are going to be deep into the dark well of these variable rate reward systems, their character and behaviors defined by their interactions with this technology. And she will be interacting with those kids. Prohibition is not a solution. By the time she is 18, either she has a personal philosophy that keeps her from overdosing on this nonsense without supervision or I've failed as a parent. But, at all costs, my daughter will be free: http://www.blankenship.io/essays/2023-10-09/ http://www.blankenship.io/essays/2023-10-09/ [1] https://www.amazon.com/Hooked-How-Build-Habit-Forming-Products/dp/1591847788 https://www.amazon.com/Hooked-How-Build-Habit-Forming-Produc...