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That is not true, I am curious as of why we all are accepting the double standards of the conflict. Also, there is a lot of smart people in HN and I would like

by xchip 3y ago

That is not true, I am curious as of why we all are accepting the double standards of the conflict. Also, there is a lot of smart people in HN and I would like to hear different opinions to get a better understanding. Having some threads talking about this matter wouldn't hurt, and specifically for the same reasons you mention in your "about": "Conflict is essential to human life, whether between different aspects of oneself, between oneself and the environment, between different individuals or between different groups. It follows that the aim of healthy living is not the direct elimination of conflict, which is possible only by forcible suppression of one or other of its antagonistic components, but the toleration of it—the capacity to bear the tensions of doubt and of unsatisfied need and the willingness to hold judgement in suspense until finer and finer solutions can be discovered which integrate more and more the claims of both sides."

dang 3y ago
I believe you that you've been posting out of curiosity, but your comments do not land this way with the reader at all. They seem provocative, inflammatory, and hostile. I hear you that you don't intend them that way, but intent isn't the active ingredient here. The active ingredient is effects, and comments like what you've been posting are guaranteed to have bad effects on HN. Yes, the quote you're citing from my profile is about conflict, but it's about tolerating conflict, not adding to it. Those are opposites. It's about learning to build capacity in yourself to absorb provocations without inflicting them on others. In this way one learns to act in a way that serves reconciliation. It's a profound insight (which is why I quote it in my profile!), a difficult challenge, and maybe even the most-worth-doing thing in the world. But it has nothing to do with venting conflictual emotions—as I say, it's a call to the opposite. If you want to understand this better, I think the key phrase in the quote is "unsatisfied need".

by xchip 3y ago

dang 3y ago

I believe you that you've been posting out of curiosity, but your comments do not land this way with the reader at all. They seem provocative, inflammatory, and hostile. I hear you that you don't intend them that way, but intent isn't the active ingredient here. The active ingredient is effects, and comments like what you've been posting are guaranteed to have bad effects on HN. Yes, the quote you're citing from my profile is about conflict, but it's about tolerating conflict, not adding to it. Those are opposites. It's about learning to build capacity in yourself to absorb provocations without inflicting them on others. In this way one learns to act in a way that serves reconciliation. It's a profound insight (which is why I quote it in my profile!), a difficult challenge, and maybe even the most-worth-doing thing in the world. But it has nothing to do with venting conflictual emotions—as I say, it's a call to the opposite. If you want to understand this better, I think the key phrase in the quote is "unsatisfied need".