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Yeah, well, you need to cut through layer upon layer of social conditioning telling you people rely on you to be strong. Not vulnerable, but more like a rock. I
by spacemadness 3y ago
Yeah, well, you need to cut through layer upon layer of social conditioning telling you people rely on you to be strong. Not vulnerable, but more like a rock. If you’re going to be sad or some such, we prefer you to show anger instead. Because that shows strength. Overall society is doing its best to keep passing that along to the next generation as a gift that keeps on giving.
- dash2 3y agoCounterpoint. I just met someone who started telling me about their bipolarity within the first five minutes of meeting. It was pretty obviously functioning as a trophy for them. This is a pretty stereotypical kind of modern bore. See also https://freddiedeboer.substack.com/p/trauma-is-indeed-like-a-car-crash https://freddiedeboer.substack.com/p/trauma-is-indeed-like-a....
- dotnet00 3y agoI disagree that society is "doing its best to keep passing that along". The statistics also show that those under 50 are twice as open to mental health talk with close friends. While the idea of men being expected to be a "rock" isn't dead, I think it has changed somewhat. At least for my family/friends, while there is still a big expectation of being emotionally "strong", that doesn't come with the expectation of coming off as invulnerable.