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It's on a different topic. ie. That if people speak up for themselves, or they want to address unfairness or inequality in their society, it's because their par

It's on a different topic. ie. That if people speak up for themselves, or they want to address unfairness or inequality in their society, it's because their parents hugged them when they cried as babies, instead of ignoring them, or whatever you're supposed to do to "toughen them up" (ie. turn them into terrified adults, washed up in middle age, who see any new youth movement as a life-threatening trend that must be stopped).

yomly 3y ago
What does ignoring babies when they cry have to do with them growing up to be terrified adults?
- Apocryphon 3y ago
  Supposed downsides to "crying it out" https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/moral-landscapes/201112/dangers-crying-it-out https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/moral-landscapes/201... https://acamh.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/jcpp.13390 https://acamh.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/jcpp....
deepsun 3y ago
My parents had several children, and they always say that they noticed behavioral differences even in the first baby months. In other words, some behavioral traits or impulses are more due to nature, not nurtured by their parents. Some babies cry more, some less, some eat more, some less, even if you approach them equally.
johnnyworker 3y ago
> it's because their parents hugged them when they cried as babies, instead of ignoring them, or whatever you're supposed to do to "toughen them up" Where have I heard that before.. https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/harsh-nazi-parenting-guidelines-may-still-affect-german-children-of-today1/ https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/harsh-nazi-parent... > In "The German Mother and Her First Child", Haarer wrote, “It is best if the child is in his own room, where he can be left alone.” If the child starts to cry, it is best to ignore him: “Whatever you do, do not pick the child up from his bed, carry him around, cradle him, stroke him, hold him on your lap, or even nurse him.”
- Lacerda69 3y ago
  the worst advice
baron816 3y ago
What? I don’t think you read the book.

yomly 3y ago

What does ignoring babies when they cry have to do with them growing up to be terrified adults?

Apocryphon 3y ago
Supposed downsides to "crying it out" https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/moral-landscapes/201112/dangers-crying-it-out https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/moral-landscapes/201... https://acamh.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/jcpp.13390 https://acamh.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/jcpp....

deepsun 3y ago

My parents had several children, and they always say that they noticed behavioral differences even in the first baby months. In other words, some behavioral traits or impulses are more due to nature, not nurtured by their parents. Some babies cry more, some less, some eat more, some less, even if you approach them equally.

johnnyworker 3y ago

> it's because their parents hugged them when they cried as babies, instead of ignoring them, or whatever you're supposed to do to "toughen them up" Where have I heard that before.. https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/harsh-nazi-parenting-guidelines-may-still-affect-german-children-of-today1/ https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/harsh-nazi-parent... > In "The German Mother and Her First Child", Haarer wrote, “It is best if the child is in his own room, where he can be left alone.” If the child starts to cry, it is best to ignore him: “Whatever you do, do not pick the child up from his bed, carry him around, cradle him, stroke him, hold him on your lap, or even nurse him.”

Lacerda69 3y ago
the worst advice

baron816 3y ago

What? I don’t think you read the book.