> There are many tricks to becoming a fail-proof superhuman, many of which I detail in my book Good lord is this cringey. > The confidence damage from failing

> There are many tricks to becoming a fail-proof superhuman, many of which I detail in my book Good lord is this cringey. > The confidence damage from failing is still huge compared to the confidence boost from succeeding, so to do success spirals right, you don’t ever want to fail a goal. But how can you completely stop failing when you’re starting off as a normal human who wins some and loses some? Just trying harder isn’t going to work. Okay, so this vulnerable phase in changing your behavior is real, though I would frame the problem and the solution differently. The problem: deep down, your brain thinks you're paying a cost for no benefit, so it's trying to stop you. The goal: through repeated success, you educate your brain about the benefits of the new behavior, inculcating a deep conviction that you're benefiting from it, so your subconscious mind and your conscious mind will both be on your side. The problem is that when you fail, you're teaching your brain to associate the effort with failure instead of success, and not just failure, but a deeper failure than you feel when you don't try. So you need to make it through this vulnerable time, repeatedly exposing your brain to the learning experience via sheer effort and a lot of tricks such as making your environment supportive, etc., copiously documented elsewhere.