I think parent means something more like "I've faced these problems in the past so I can relate to you" instead of dumping current problems. I guess there is an

I think parent means something more like "I've faced these problems in the past so I can relate to you" instead of dumping current problems. I guess there is an awkward area where the parent has serious current problems because, as you say, burdening their child with that is also an issue.