Why is the choice between "libertarianism" and communism/urbanism/collectivism. Maybe some people don't want their immediate way of life dictated by those arou

Why is the choice between "libertarianism" and communism/urbanism/collectivism. Maybe some people don't want their immediate way of life dictated by those around them and would prefer some agency and freedom in their daily lives while still wanting to help others. We need a way to help people without those doing the helping/net taxpayers having their way of lives destroyed. (a guy with a SFH not having a 300 room apartment build right next to him, a guy wanting to drive his personal vehicle not having 75% of his roads redirected for bus/bike lanes and can only drive his even numbered license plate on tu/thur) etc. I don't see this happening, so until then, complete opposition.