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> Is anything going on in your life that no one knows about? Um. Yeah. My parents might have gotten me to answer here, but they had literally spent a lifetime
by kayodelycaon 3y ago
> Is anything going on in your life that no one knows about?
Um. Yeah. My parents might have gotten me to answer here, but they had literally spent a lifetime building trust.
Being from a religious community, I saw a lot of authoritarian parents who had completely destroyed their relationship with their kids.
Good luck talking about getting your teen to talk about forbidden topics you’ll punished them for if they give the wrong answer.
- dmvdoug 3y agoA million times this. Even if the parents aren’t necessarily authoritarian, kids can still be deeply afraid of confiding in their parent(s) when they’re doing something that they feel their parents will judge them for. Teenagers feel like they’re being judged from the outside all the time. They worry so much (consciously or not) about what other people think of them. To have it come from home too can just be too much.
- FFP999 3y agoSeriously. If either of my parents had asked me this when I was a teenager, my brain would have immediately gone into overdrive trying to figure out what they already knew about, what they suspected, and how best to keep my secrets secret.