not a response of the article - just a contribution to the conversation here: anyone into kink should be able to understand there is a complex relationship betw

not a response of the article - just a contribution to the conversation here: anyone into kink should be able to understand there is a complex relationship between constraint and freedom. Yes monogamy is as a constraint, but that constraint creates a space of freedom, in which people can reveal themselves honestly while minimizing any sense that anything revealed good or bad will be judged relative to alternative partners. Not everybody needs that, not everybody needs monogamy to create that dynamic, but it would be mistake to think that monogamy doesn't offer anything for thoughtful liberated people in exchange for the constraints it requires