I thought this would be the default case too, but it's surprisingly nuanced. One red flag is anyone wanting to open a monogamous relationship that isn't more-o

I thought this would be the default case too, but it's surprisingly nuanced. One red flag is anyone wanting to open a monogamous relationship that isn't more-or-less rock solid. Polyamory isn't something to try if you're uncertain about your current monogamous partner. The ideal case is for someone to go into the dating pool as openly polyamorous. But this will take a couple more generations, I think. Most people don't have the opportunity, because the idea that we need to choose a single partner has been hammered into us from the moment we were born. So I'm sympathetic to people who want to put in the work of exploring whether polyamory is possible within the bounds of an existing relationship. The most important thing is communication. There will be misunderstandings, but at no point should someone feel like something is being hidden from the other. That's different than respecting each person's individual relationships – one is underhanded, the other is a social contract. This isn't directly related to your point, but https://www.unicorns-r-us.com/ https://www.unicorns-r-us.com/ was an interesting read.