I have not read The Ethical Slut so without commenting on the specifics, but agreed. I was in a long term, very open (kinky, BDSM) relationship with someone, bu

I have not read The Ethical Slut so without commenting on the specifics, but agreed. I was in a long term, very open (kinky, BDSM) relationship with someone, but on the topic of opening things up, there was some guilt applied. "Perhaps if you were more progressive, you'd be into it..." as if dozens of other "progressive" traits in me, sexual or otherwise, were insufficient. It was very much an "unethical" approach at trying to introduce openness.