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I’m a bit surprised by the description of sociable acquaintances. I can’t imagine going out of my way to spend time with people who aren’t really my friends jus
by dinkleberg 3y ago
I’m a bit surprised by the description of sociable acquaintances. I can’t imagine going out of my way to spend time with people who aren’t really my friends just for social convention. Especially things like going to their weddings!
Now it’s one thing if they are your partners friend since that is a friend of a friend. But if it is someone you know but don’t actually like enough to elevate to full friend status, I don’t get it.
That’s probably just me being a big introvert though. The idea of willingly going out and being around people I have to fake laugh with is not my idea of a good time.
- H8crilA 3y agoImagine you're thinking of moving to a different country, but it is actually a difficult decision, where not only you but other people will be affected, some of them negatively. Now consider all the people at work from whom you'd immediately accept an invitation to a lunch/coffee. Are all of those people "close enough" for you to disclose your intention and ask for advice? Those that aren't are approximately the "sociable acquaintances". Sociable acquaintances require almost no trust from each other, beyond believing that the other person is not psychotic, or a dangerous sociopath, or something of this sort.
- dinkleberg 3y agoOh no, I’m not disputing the existence or value of having acquaintances. But rather I can’t imagine doing the level of socializing with them as described by the post.
- H8crilA 3y agoIt's required if you have a middle-manager-like job. Especially in a smaller company, you have to know (in this way) a whole lot of people, so that they pick up the phone if you call them.