I do recall the context. What were you trying to convey with the phrase "It's a shame?" Was that not your judgement of their choice? Also, how do you propose

I do recall the context. What were you trying to convey with the phrase "It's a shame?" Was that not your judgement of their choice? Also, how do you propose to prevent other people from blaming one another for things? You didn't answer my question about why family members are exempt from your general view - which I am genuinely curious about.