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I find that most people's suggestions on this topic are that someone else modify their behavior to accommodate the suggester. This observation applies to both s
by lmkg 15y ago
I find that most people's suggestions on this topic are that someone else modify their behavior to accommodate the suggester. This observation applies to both sides: pro-feminists suggest men stop behaving in ways that offend them, and (non-pro-feminist) men suggest that women stop being offended.
I don't think we're going to get very far when both sides put the responsibility[1] for action on the other party.
[1] Responsibility is not the same as blame.
- angersock 15y agoYou're welcome to do as you please, of course. Just acknowledge that, if it pleases you to be offended when somebody says something factually incorrect about you, well, by golly, you'll be offended. We cannot do anything by message passing (especially on the internet) that directly and unstoppably changes the mental state of another person--they must read it, and then become offended or not. This is trivially shown to be true. You don't throw a system out on the 'net without hardening it--even well-meaning applications can cause problems if you don't. Similarly, even well-meaning messages can cause people distress if they allow them to; it's better just to have thicker skin and deal with the unrepentant troublemakers by ignoring them or correcting them.