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I, too, have been running my phone on DND as of late and it’s been pretty great. My wife disagrees :). I’m pretty sure iOS focus modes would allow me to configu

I, too, have been running my phone on DND as of late and it’s been pretty great. My wife disagrees :). I’m pretty sure iOS focus modes would allow me to configure notifications from my wife to come through while silencing the others but I’ll wait til she tells me :).

aidos 3y ago
It’s fairly strightforward - if you swipe down from the top right and turn on DND there are 3 dots next to it and you can customise it. In there you can put a list of people that you want notifications from.
nucleardog 3y ago
Between the focus modes and general notification settings you can get things pretty quieted down. As a baseline have about half a dozen things on my phone that actually actively interrupt me. Calendar, alarms, weather alerts, banking, and, yes, messages from my wife. I have a few more that can send notifications but they don’t alert me, they all get rolled up into the “Notification Center” for me to review whenever I feel like catching up on them. (This includes direct contacts like SMS from anyone else on my “allow” list.) During work hours Slack can notify me as well. If I get any notifications outside of work hours, they’ll appear when my phone goes back to work mode. After 9pm the only things that can notify me are phone calls from a handful of people. The notifications will be there in the morning. When I’m driving I can only receive phone calls from my wife. This is a whitelist, not a blacklist. I have to consciously decide to receive notifications from something and when I want to receive them. The focuses turn themselves on and off throughout the week without me doing anything. If I’m expecting something (e.g., scheduled telehealth call), I’ll just turn focus off around the time I need to receive the notifications and deal with the firehose until it’s done. (Used to do the same for food deliveries and stuff until I moved to the middle of nowhere and stopped doing that.) I truly don’t understand how people live with their phones otherwise.
offices 3y ago
My wife hasn't set up focus, so my Signal messages to her don't notify her late at night. That's when I tell her I'm buying new things :)

aidos 3y ago

It’s fairly strightforward - if you swipe down from the top right and turn on DND there are 3 dots next to it and you can customise it. In there you can put a list of people that you want notifications from.

nucleardog 3y ago

Between the focus modes and general notification settings you can get things pretty quieted down. As a baseline have about half a dozen things on my phone that actually actively interrupt me. Calendar, alarms, weather alerts, banking, and, yes, messages from my wife. I have a few more that can send notifications but they don’t alert me, they all get rolled up into the “Notification Center” for me to review whenever I feel like catching up on them. (This includes direct contacts like SMS from anyone else on my “allow” list.) During work hours Slack can notify me as well. If I get any notifications outside of work hours, they’ll appear when my phone goes back to work mode. After 9pm the only things that can notify me are phone calls from a handful of people. The notifications will be there in the morning. When I’m driving I can only receive phone calls from my wife. This is a whitelist, not a blacklist. I have to consciously decide to receive notifications from something and when I want to receive them. The focuses turn themselves on and off throughout the week without me doing anything. If I’m expecting something (e.g., scheduled telehealth call), I’ll just turn focus off around the time I need to receive the notifications and deal with the firehose until it’s done. (Used to do the same for food deliveries and stuff until I moved to the middle of nowhere and stopped doing that.) I truly don’t understand how people live with their phones otherwise.

offices 3y ago

My wife hasn't set up focus, so my Signal messages to her don't notify her late at night. That's when I tell her I'm buying new things :)