> But if your partner doesn’t want it at all, then you need to really not push the issue I completely get where you are coming from. I was the partner who didn

> But if your partner doesn’t want it at all, then you need to really not push the issue I completely get where you are coming from. I was the partner who didn't want children at all. I didn't want the responsibility, the loss of freedom and the financial burden. We then had a child and any doubts I could have had dissipated: I now knew with absolute certainty that I did NOT want to raise children. No room for doubt whatsoever. I struggled with anger, depression and grief of my previous lifestyle. A few years later I'm perfectly satisfied with not one but two kids. We would have a third if we were young enough. All of this is to say: it is a life-changing experience and no amount of doubt or certainty before the fact can prepare anybody for the reality of it. Thus, people overthink it in my opinion. Do or do not have kids, but let's not pretend that any of us knows what they are getting into until they are in the middle of it. Your priorities in life and your very own identity changes.