The argument of selfishness still assumes that having children is the default and there’s something wrong or negative at play for those who choose not to go dow

The argument of selfishness still assumes that having children is the default and there’s something wrong or negative at play for those who choose not to go down that path. I’d also point out that the decision to have children is almost always one motivated by what people want for themselves, not some altruistic obligation. If asking people why they chose to have kids wasn’t taboo, I’d be willing to bet that the answers you’d hear back would be about what the parents want for themselves. At its core, “We’ve always dreamed of starting a family” is about the life the parents desire to live.