"Why should an employer always be able to impose their desires on my lifestyle and not the other way around" It depends on your leverage. If you have a skills

"Why should an employer always be able to impose their desires on my lifestyle and not the other way around" It depends on your leverage. If you have a skillset that very few other people possess and the potential employer needs you, sure. If you are an amazon warehouse worker that can easily be replaced, good luck.