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> Do you mean that you are spending time alone with other women in their houses or in your house, and your spouse is fine with that? Yes that is what I mean. I

> Do you mean that you are spending time alone with other women in their houses or in your house, and your spouse is fine with that? Yes that is what I mean. I guess more often in public or at some event, but sometimes at one of our homes. > where I live everybody will assume that when a man and a woman spend time together alone, they are having sex Here's what I don't understand: if you can't trust your partner to not instantly have sex when you aren't around, then why would you trust them to never be alone with other people in the first place? Does that make sense? In other words: "You can go hang out with that guy, but don't have sex with him" - impossible, she'd never be able to resist the urge "I'm going out of town for a couple days, don't go see any male acquaintances while I'm gone" - I trust her completely, of course she'll do as I say How can you believe both of these things? You either trust her or you don't.

carlosjobim 3y ago
> Here's what I don't understand: if you can't trust your partner to not instantly have sex when you aren't around It's not really about that. When people are grown up, there's really no reason for people to be one-on-one with the opposite sex unless it is for intimate reasons. And I think people are more sexual here (or people where you live are un-sexual), because most women and men here don't really want to have intimate friendship with people of the opposite sex, unless there is a sexual spark. This might sound weird to you, but if somebody is so repulsive that you don't want to have sex with them, why would you want to be intimate friends with such a repulsive person? And the opposite: If somebody is so repulsed by you etc. That doesn't mean people are horn-dogs that are trying for sex all the time. It's just a law of nature that when a man and a woman are together alone, they will sleep together. After all, that's what we were born to do.

carlosjobim 3y ago

> Here's what I don't understand: if you can't trust your partner to not instantly have sex when you aren't around It's not really about that. When people are grown up, there's really no reason for people to be one-on-one with the opposite sex unless it is for intimate reasons. And I think people are more sexual here (or people where you live are un-sexual), because most women and men here don't really want to have intimate friendship with people of the opposite sex, unless there is a sexual spark. This might sound weird to you, but if somebody is so repulsive that you don't want to have sex with them, why would you want to be intimate friends with such a repulsive person? And the opposite: If somebody is so repulsed by you etc. That doesn't mean people are horn-dogs that are trying for sex all the time. It's just a law of nature that when a man and a woman are together alone, they will sleep together. After all, that's what we were born to do.