> Urban environments make me very uncomfortable. (...) You could have (just a theory, I am not a therapist) weaker boundaries. From what I read it is not neces

> Urban environments make me very uncomfortable. (...) You could have (just a theory, I am not a therapist) weaker boundaries. From what I read it is not necessarily emotional. It is said that really invasive surgeries for example can weaken this internal sense of boundary for some people, which is added stress into the system that really never goes away unless the person can somehow brings back a good sense of safety. > I have a pet theory (no pun intended) that the homeless suffer the same plight Oh yeah. Absolutely... it must be awful. To live on the street means there is a level of stress in their body that just never quiets down. Unless they are in a group perhaps with safe people, or perhaps in an area of town where they won't be bothered. Can't even begin to imagine what it's like. I always remember one night I missed the last train, and I walked around in town, I was looking for one of those shop entrances where there is a small hallway and I was so tired, I figured if I get in a corner there outside of the main street lights, I could just try to sleep. But oh no, as soon as I walked in those spaces, lights would turn on automatically. It was awful... I never realized how unfriendly and so totally unsafe being out on the street at night is like. There was literally nowdhere I could hide in the dark and crawl into a corner. And obviously lying down on a bench at night in the park wasn't a sensible option. But yeah it's really about having a sense of personal space. Violence, invasive surgeries, or even sometimes natural disasters can severely affect someone's sense of safety. I remember one streamer on Twitch he said one night a tree crashed through the roof and that he never slept quite the same since! Hopefully for people who otherwise have good support and a safe environments these things can heal over time. > rather than reshaping her environment like I do, she reshapes her own perception of it. I use noise cancelling headphones for years now. It does provide relief, especially with noise from unruly neighbours. When I put the headphones on, I am also in my space in a sense. I think ultimately it has to do with the amygdala, and a "internalized" sense of safety, from past experience and relationships.