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The 60s take is that the woman is at home, ready willing and able to pack a suitcase. In 2023 it's more likely she is at work, like everyone else.
by bravoetch 3y ago
The 60s take is that the woman is at home, ready willing and able to pack a suitcase. In 2023 it's more likely she is at work, like everyone else.
- ceejayoz 3y agoThis particular job may self-select towards a (high) single income family scenario, though. Or at least a highly flexible second income.
- Horffupolde 3y agoI like my wives at home.
- Alupis 3y agoYour spouse is incapable of going home and packing a suitcase to assist you simply because they also work? If you can't help out your spouse when needed, then you're not much of a spouse - regardless of your gender, income, roles, etc... This is a ridiculous take...
- bravoetch 3y agoYes, people can't just leave work to rescue an incompetent spouse at a moments notice because they didn't prepare appropriately for their 24*7 on-call job.
- daniel_reetz 3y agoMy wife and I both lived this for a while, and we both made some pretty crazy sacrifices and trips to keep each other moving. We were equals and highly committed.
- Alupis 3y agoBe realistic - this isn't an every day thing clearly. If you cannot help your partner during a time of need or emergency - then you're not really partners, are you?
- DiggyJohnson 3y agoNot everyone, but some can. Presumably there were other ways for non-married colleagues to figure out that situation. The author was talking about his and [some of] his colleagues’ experiences, not arguing for a position in the battle of the sexes.
- groby_b 3y agoThe text is specifically referring to 'wife' - the underlying assumption (or fact) that the team all have wives. Not a single husband[1]. It's not about 'helping out your spouse', the 60s comment was in reference to stereotypically gendered language. It was not, and has never been, about 'helping your spouse'. [1] Or enby partner, but the point still stands.
- DiggyJohnson 3y agoHow do you know they weren’t all men? If that was in fact the case, would you still say the author ought to use ungendered language? Remember this is a personal experience, not a political piece.
- groby_b 3y agoI know it's a personal piece. I'd prefer if the author used ungendered language, but my amount of upset about that not happening is close to zero. I'm not the language police. I do, however, very much object to folks moving goal posts on a discussion. OP commented on 60s language because it was gendered. Apply whatever value judgment you want to that statement, agree, disagree, whatever you need to do - but it was never a discussion about "helping a spouse is bad". That was the point. Let's stop debating things that have never been said, we have Twitter for that.
- SoftTalker 3y agoThis kind of commentary gets so tiresome.
- axus 3y agoThe only time you'd need someone to bring you a packed suitcase is when you can't go home to get it, don't have time to buy replacements, and will be sleeping on-site. They're asking a spouse to pack things up after normal business hours, because they can't do it themselves. It does seem unlikely that the airplane maintenance would be within reasonable driving distance of the house, the story would have been clearer and more impactful if they'd said "Fedex a suitcase overnight".