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I don't think it's even possible to miss the point I was trying to make more than you already have. I was cautioning against making assumptions about a person w
by jm4 18y ago
I don't think it's even possible to miss the point I was trying to make more than you already have. I was cautioning against making assumptions about a person who has stated a vague opinion without the reasons for having that opinion. And just like the person I was responding to, you have done exactly that.
Some people, based on past experience, expect to be offended and see malice in words where there is none. Sometimes we make connections between others' statement based on our own beliefs. I guess it's just human nature. It's probably easier to ask for some clarification.
- shard 18y agoWhat's wonderful about our world is that there are a myriad of ways that people can perceive a situation, which allows all sorts of different viewpoints to emerge. I interpreted the situation differently from you based on my experience of conversation flow, and there's no need for me to agree to your point even though I understood it the first time. Some people, based on past experience, are unaware that their words may carry unintended malice or hurtfulness (see Rosie O'Donnell's 'Ching Chong' comments) or may harbor subconscious prejudices (see Project Implicit, https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/ https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/). It's better for all of us that these are pointed out rather than ignored.