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Being kind to another human being because you want to encourage them to keep doing what they are doing, Favor trading, Compromise. This is called diplomacy.

Being kind to another human being because you want to encourage them to keep doing what they are doing, Favor trading, Compromise. This is called diplomacy. Anyway. This story is about the opposite of that. Diplomacy is a choice, usually a trade-off, in favoring a longer-term relationship. Failure to even want to be diplomatic shows the Linux maintainer thinks this person is worthless as a human being on a long-term basis wrt kernel maintenance. And that's fine, but don't be surprised when that contributor is offended and proves you right.

Chris2048 3y ago
> Being kind to another human being > shows the Linux maintainer thinks this person is worthless as a human being bit of a contradiction. This highly speculative take on the maintainer isn't exactly kind.
hnfong 3y ago
Writing a story 1.5 years after the fact to complain about not being credited for a 20 line patch that was subpar doesn't sound very compromisy nor displomaticy to me. I feel sad for the maintainer in question who suddenly is on the receiving end of a borderline defamatory blog post featured in the front page of HN for some minor "mistake" he made 1.5 years ago. Apparently according to some comments in this discussion what he did was pretty much standard procedure even. Where is "being kind" for him? Where is the "encourage them to keep doing what they are doing" for him? Not the misattribution of course, but like, to not feel discouraged after 20 thankless years of contributing to the kernel and 10 years of maintaining a kernel subsystem? Speculative statements like this are anything but kind: "Linux maintainer thinks this person is worthless as a human". Take your own medicine. Actually be empathic, not only to those wearing the protagonist hat, but to every single person, and perhaps especially those unfairly villainized.

Chris2048 3y ago

> Being kind to another human being > shows the Linux maintainer thinks this person is worthless as a human being bit of a contradiction. This highly speculative take on the maintainer isn't exactly kind.

hnfong 3y ago

Writing a story 1.5 years after the fact to complain about not being credited for a 20 line patch that was subpar doesn't sound very compromisy nor displomaticy to me. I feel sad for the maintainer in question who suddenly is on the receiving end of a borderline defamatory blog post featured in the front page of HN for some minor "mistake" he made 1.5 years ago. Apparently according to some comments in this discussion what he did was pretty much standard procedure even. Where is "being kind" for him? Where is the "encourage them to keep doing what they are doing" for him? Not the misattribution of course, but like, to not feel discouraged after 20 thankless years of contributing to the kernel and 10 years of maintaining a kernel subsystem? Speculative statements like this are anything but kind: "Linux maintainer thinks this person is worthless as a human". Take your own medicine. Actually be empathic, not only to those wearing the protagonist hat, but to every single person, and perhaps especially those unfairly villainized.