> One thing I do know is that putting in a lot of work up front, without any communication, sending a patch and then getting all worked up if it's not accepted

> One thing I do know is that putting in a lot of work up front, without any communication, sending a patch and then getting all worked up if it's not accepted is not generally a good strategy. It is generally a very bad strategy to do unasked work and expect appreciation or gratitude in return.