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That’s not evidence. You know what you don’t see in America? Children working in factories. Baby girls left at orphanages or sold. You do see parents going int

That’s not evidence. You know what you don’t see in America? Children working in factories. Baby girls left at orphanages or sold. You do see parents going into debt to pay for school, sports and other activities, deferring retirement, buying phones and cars for their kids. Generalizations that include vast numbers of people from different places and cultures don’t make any sense to begin with. Cambodia and Japan, both Asian, have very different outcomes for children. America likewise doesn’t describe a single culture or set of traditions. Some countries and cultures make divorce difficult or impossible, the USA does not. Anecdotally, as an American parent, I have seen far more parents centering their lives around children and making sacrifices than I have seen selfish and neglectful parents — even after divorce. In rural Thailand you see many children raised by grandparents or other relatives because the parents dropped them off to do their own thing. And you see devoted parents caring for their children too. I can’t generalize anything about Thai parents from those observations. I suspect that opinions about how much parents care for children, anecdotal and generalized, derive mainly from misinterpreting cultural differences.

em-bee 3y ago
Children working in factories. Baby girls left at orphanages or sold most likely caused by extreme poverty. children in factories happens in the US too: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=35137873 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=35137873 also this: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child_selling#United_States https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child_selling#United_States selling babies is a form of adoption that was common in the US too before adoption became acceptable. people in the US still give up children for adoption. treatment of girls is a specific asian problem, driven by their culture and the dependency to have a son to care for them in old age, but it is changing. In rural Thailand you see many children raised by grandparents that is simply asian culture. it happens in china too. the motivation here is that the parents are not just off to do their own thing, but are off to work their ass off so their kids can have a future. that's not selfish or neglectful but in their eyes, the ultimate sacrifice.

em-bee 3y ago

Children working in factories. Baby girls left at orphanages or sold most likely caused by extreme poverty. children in factories happens in the US too: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=35137873 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=35137873 also this: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child_selling#United_States https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child_selling#United_States selling babies is a form of adoption that was common in the US too before adoption became acceptable. people in the US still give up children for adoption. treatment of girls is a specific asian problem, driven by their culture and the dependency to have a son to care for them in old age, but it is changing. In rural Thailand you see many children raised by grandparents that is simply asian culture. it happens in china too. the motivation here is that the parents are not just off to do their own thing, but are off to work their ass off so their kids can have a future. that's not selfish or neglectful but in their eyes, the ultimate sacrifice.