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If you can't survive a weekend, or even a week, or a month - without your phone - you badly need to take a look at how you're living your life. IMO. It's a dam
by dmje 3y ago
If you can't survive a weekend, or even a week, or a month - without your phone - you badly need to take a look at how you're living your life. IMO.
It's a damn beautiful world out here. Silence and space are wonderful. Lack of notifications and lack of stimulation is to be embraced. Cash points and debit cards exist. People are kind and will give you directions. Interactions with humans - real ones, not mediated via a screen - will teach you a million times more useful things about emotion and love and fear than a thousand years of InstaTikTokFaceplant bullshit.
Get back in your life.
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- LoganDark 3y ago> Interactions with humans - real ones, not mediated via a screen - will teach you a million times more useful things about emotion and love and fear than a thousand years of InstaTikTokFaceplant bullshit. My experience completely laughs in the face of this, probably because I've never used Instagram or TikTok, and deleted my Facebook account a decade ago. But the friendships I've had online have been far closer and more engaging than anything that I could have ever had with a "Real Human".
- dmje 3y agoWow. I mean. Wow.
- resolutebat 3y agoAh, such a succinct way of conveying "you have violated a social contract in such a blatant way that I will not even give you the common courtesy of explaining what, exactly, you've done wrong".
- dmje 3y agoNo. It was literally a complete inability to understand. I'm of the age that I'm not "permanently online" and my real f2f friendships are everything to me. I was just expressing my astonishment that this could be another way.
- LoganDark 3y agoI'm neurodivergent, so it's not something that works for everyone. But I think it's still possible to love people online, without having to worry about physical bodies. I don't mean a relationship kind of love, or even the opposite end of the spectrum being totally-platonic love. I just love my friends for the people that they are, perhaps even more than I am capable of loving a physical body. And because the internet keeps me always connected to everyone... I don't have to arrange meetups, or worry about travel times or expenses, or about people moving away. I've had tons of traumatic experiences too, because this necessarily comes with a certain degree of vulnerability. I still haven't been able to escape the negative effects of those experiences yet. But I'd say it's worth it just for the wonderful people that I know today.
- KronisLV 3y ago> My experience completely laughs in the face of this, probably because I've never used Instagram or TikTok, and deleted my Facebook account a decade ago. But the friendships I've had online have been far closer and more engaging than anything that I could have ever had with a "Real Human". Sometimes you live in an area where people hold different values than you, or have hobbies that are pretty far detached from what you'd prefer to do. Maybe they have political leanings that don't make you comfortable, or kind of expect you to participate in those activities that you don't care for, to fulfill your "role" in society. In those cases, finding interest groups and communities online that aren't limited to incidentally being in your proximity feels like a good thing! Same for various support groups, or even being able to find information online easily nowadays by content creators! Nothing wrong with any of that at all. In addition, it's also easier to handle people that you don't want to engage with (blocking) vs IRL. Just watch out for parasocial aspects and takes by terminally online people or influencers.