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My mom was homeless for years, thankfully she got stable housing right before covid took off. - in shelters/churches-with-cots there would be crazed drug-users

My mom was homeless for years, thankfully she got stable housing right before covid took off. - in shelters/churches-with-cots there would be crazed drug-users, she was threatened numerous times in them and the shelter can't do anything - I wasn't financially able to help her much but managed to buy her a "clunker" of a car which she later slept in before getting housing - she's entirely dependent on getting social security, for food, housing, etc. she fears any politician that even talks about going after it - she's 70 and is currently looking for work :( currently looking for jobs as a substitute teacher, for which I'm scared to death for her given all the videos online of kids beating up teachers and getting away with it, but what else can be done? - I bought her a new (used) car recently, a tiny SUV -- when we were on the lot looking at it she wanted to see how the seats go down so that she could try laying down in it to make sure she fits, in case it ever happens again

thejackgoode 3y ago
>given all the videos online of kids beating up teachers and getting away with it I don't think I heard of a single such story in my life. Is it a thing?
- nnadams 3y ago
  Yes unfortunately. There are TikTok "challenges" go slap your teacher for example. Similar to the "challenges" where you should eat a spoon of cinnamon, eat a Tide pod, etc. There's an air of do this and film it for clout. Most kids roll their eyes as well of course, but there are people who follow along.
  - lolinder 3y ago
    Facebook was bad, Instagram was worse, but TikTok is downright freaky. It's like each additional layer of multimedia added to social media amplifies whatever mental toxin these platforms feed people. Edit: as a sibling notes, this particular challenge appears to not actually exist: https://www.snopes.com/news/2021/10/07/slap-a-teacher-challenge-tiktok/ https://www.snopes.com/news/2021/10/07/slap-a-teacher-challe...
    - yardie 3y ago
      I constantly have to remind myself that TikTok is a Chinese owned company and while a video like this would be banned in China the algorithm amplifies anti-social behaviour like this in the west. When I see kids around me watching videos like this, I make sure to remind them and their parents this is deliberate propaganda. When Facebook/Insta does it the motivation is money. When TikTok does it the motivation is political.
      - sedawk 3y ago
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  - ceejayoz 3y ago
    > There are TikTok "challenges" go slap your teacher for example. These are mostly of the "razor blades / drugs in Halloween candy" sort, where there's a lot of breathless coverage but very little actual evidence of it happening in the real world.
beretguy 3y ago
> My mom was homeless for years > I wasn't financially able to help her much but managed to buy her a "clunker" of a car which she later slept in before getting housing Ah… So… If you had a place to live couldn’t you let her live in that same place too, instead of her being homeless? My parents lost their jobs due to covid, and even though they treated me bad when I was a kid I still let them in my house. How can you let your parents be homeless like that? Is this an American thing? (I’m originally from Europe but live in US for over a decade).
- ok123456 3y ago
  Maybe she's 3000km away? Maybe he doesn't have the resources to host her?
- tartuffe78 3y ago
  You're assuming he has a house. Apartments, especially ones with roommates don't just let you bring in extra people.
- effingwewt 3y ago
  OP may not live alone- you are making a lot of assumptions. Maybe their mother was a proud woman who didn't want to impose/intrude more than she already was. Their mother may live in another state, in which she is more comfortable. Rather than reprimanding OP, try having some empathy. If not for OP then for their mother. No one should have to be homeless, it's a special kind of hell. I speak from personal experience.
  - gs17 3y ago
    >Maybe their mother was a proud woman who didn't want to impose/intrude more than she already was. And sometimes it's impossible to convince people that it really is less of a burden. My grandmother is that type of woman and it can be very frustrating to balance.
- Hates_ 3y ago
  It's one thing to be curious as to why they couldn't have housed their mother, but it's possible to ask with empathy and compassion rather than assumptions and judgment.
frnklydisgusted 3y ago
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thejackgoode 3y ago

>given all the videos online of kids beating up teachers and getting away with it I don't think I heard of a single such story in my life. Is it a thing?

nnadams 3y ago
Yes unfortunately. There are TikTok "challenges" go slap your teacher for example. Similar to the "challenges" where you should eat a spoon of cinnamon, eat a Tide pod, etc. There's an air of do this and film it for clout. Most kids roll their eyes as well of course, but there are people who follow along.
- lolinder 3y ago
  Facebook was bad, Instagram was worse, but TikTok is downright freaky. It's like each additional layer of multimedia added to social media amplifies whatever mental toxin these platforms feed people. Edit: as a sibling notes, this particular challenge appears to not actually exist: https://www.snopes.com/news/2021/10/07/slap-a-teacher-challenge-tiktok/ https://www.snopes.com/news/2021/10/07/slap-a-teacher-challe...
  - yardie 3y ago
    I constantly have to remind myself that TikTok is a Chinese owned company and while a video like this would be banned in China the algorithm amplifies anti-social behaviour like this in the west. When I see kids around me watching videos like this, I make sure to remind them and their parents this is deliberate propaganda. When Facebook/Insta does it the motivation is money. When TikTok does it the motivation is political.
    - sedawk 3y ago
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- ceejayoz 3y ago
  > There are TikTok "challenges" go slap your teacher for example. These are mostly of the "razor blades / drugs in Halloween candy" sort, where there's a lot of breathless coverage but very little actual evidence of it happening in the real world.

beretguy 3y ago

> My mom was homeless for years > I wasn't financially able to help her much but managed to buy her a "clunker" of a car which she later slept in before getting housing Ah… So… If you had a place to live couldn’t you let her live in that same place too, instead of her being homeless? My parents lost their jobs due to covid, and even though they treated me bad when I was a kid I still let them in my house. How can you let your parents be homeless like that? Is this an American thing? (I’m originally from Europe but live in US for over a decade).

ok123456 3y ago
Maybe she's 3000km away? Maybe he doesn't have the resources to host her?
tartuffe78 3y ago
You're assuming he has a house. Apartments, especially ones with roommates don't just let you bring in extra people.
effingwewt 3y ago
OP may not live alone- you are making a lot of assumptions. Maybe their mother was a proud woman who didn't want to impose/intrude more than she already was. Their mother may live in another state, in which she is more comfortable. Rather than reprimanding OP, try having some empathy. If not for OP then for their mother. No one should have to be homeless, it's a special kind of hell. I speak from personal experience.
- gs17 3y ago
  >Maybe their mother was a proud woman who didn't want to impose/intrude more than she already was. And sometimes it's impossible to convince people that it really is less of a burden. My grandmother is that type of woman and it can be very frustrating to balance.
Hates_ 3y ago
It's one thing to be curious as to why they couldn't have housed their mother, but it's possible to ask with empathy and compassion rather than assumptions and judgment.

frnklydisgusted 3y ago

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