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I wish more people would talk to me on trains planes or wherever else. If ever something like that does happen it usually really brightens my day. You might as

I wish more people would talk to me on trains planes or wherever else. If ever something like that does happen it usually really brightens my day. You might ask why I don't start such conversations. I simply do not think im capable. I wish I were, but ive spent a great deal of stress trying to get myself to talk freely at things like conferences, parties, etc. I just can't do it. This affliction I think is more and more common.

nuancebydefault 3y ago
I often start conversations with random people around. It feels liberating to be able to do so, I recommend it. Now and then I learn something interesting. Oftentimes, I start the conversation but also have the last word. Which feels frustrating. You can't have it all.
nico 3y ago
Try the book The Charisma Myth, it has some great exercises to help you do stuff like talking to strangers. You have to do the exercises though There is stuff there that can help you get people to talk to you without initiating the conversation yourself That book changed my life
- PartiallyTyped 3y ago
  There's something quite funny about reading a book, an activity usually enjoyed alone sans conversations, about well, conversations. Thanks for the recommendation, I will give it a try.
  - nico 3y ago
    For sure. However, the most important thing is not reading the book, but doing the exercises If you could do just one thing, I’d recommend only reading the intro and practicing the 3 tips/exercises as much as possible until they become a habit
- sph 3y ago
  I have the same issue as GP, and the Charisma Myth book has sat, unread, in my bookshelf for a year. I also bought the audiobook with my Audible trial, still unlistened. Self help books have a tendency to feel hollow and unsatisfying by the time you reach the end, but I really wish I could stop overthinking the process of striking a chat with a complete stranger. I am quite pleasant and I believe witty once the conversation gets going, but by God, I couldn't start a conversation to save my life. I'll try to read that book, hopefully I'm not let down by the hope there is a social magic trick I have never been privy to.
  - nico 3y ago
    Try just reading the intro. It gives you 3 very simple exercises that work surprisingly fast and are pretty easy to do I’d recommend to not read any further until you’ve done the exercises, every chapter has 1-3 different ones Reading the book might help you understand some things about yourself or about people, but by far the most important thing is to do the exercises

nuancebydefault 3y ago

I often start conversations with random people around. It feels liberating to be able to do so, I recommend it. Now and then I learn something interesting. Oftentimes, I start the conversation but also have the last word. Which feels frustrating. You can't have it all.

nico 3y ago

Try the book The Charisma Myth, it has some great exercises to help you do stuff like talking to strangers. You have to do the exercises though There is stuff there that can help you get people to talk to you without initiating the conversation yourself That book changed my life

PartiallyTyped 3y ago
There's something quite funny about reading a book, an activity usually enjoyed alone sans conversations, about well, conversations. Thanks for the recommendation, I will give it a try.
- nico 3y ago
  For sure. However, the most important thing is not reading the book, but doing the exercises If you could do just one thing, I’d recommend only reading the intro and practicing the 3 tips/exercises as much as possible until they become a habit
sph 3y ago
I have the same issue as GP, and the Charisma Myth book has sat, unread, in my bookshelf for a year. I also bought the audiobook with my Audible trial, still unlistened. Self help books have a tendency to feel hollow and unsatisfying by the time you reach the end, but I really wish I could stop overthinking the process of striking a chat with a complete stranger. I am quite pleasant and I believe witty once the conversation gets going, but by God, I couldn't start a conversation to save my life. I'll try to read that book, hopefully I'm not let down by the hope there is a social magic trick I have never been privy to.
- nico 3y ago
  Try just reading the intro. It gives you 3 very simple exercises that work surprisingly fast and are pretty easy to do I’d recommend to not read any further until you’ve done the exercises, every chapter has 1-3 different ones Reading the book might help you understand some things about yourself or about people, but by far the most important thing is to do the exercises