My 2 cents. Dad of 5 and 1.5 year old girls. Work at startup. Wife in PE. Time with kids is important for sure. Many commenters rightly point that out with the

My 2 cents. Dad of 5 and 1.5 year old girls. Work at startup. Wife in PE. Time with kids is important for sure. Many commenters rightly point that out with their own anecdotes. But, equally important is time to deal with yourself, the good, the bad, the etc. Something that happens is your anxiety spikes. So, you're determined to spend time with your kids but also anxious about logistics or where/how to fit that time in relative to other demands. So, you're anxious with and around your kids. That doesn't help them much either. In fact, I think lots of anxious moments in parenting would be better left ignored. In other words, your time with them is sort of good and bad - anxiety is contagious. They benefit from your presence but feel the stress like you do too. Long story short: just focus on enjoying your time with them, and worry less about what you're doing, how much time you're spending, and certainly cut a lot of the overthinking.