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Derek, this thread really resonates with me. I've been at a crossroads between 2 distinct paths for several years. Path A is a road I've been on for almost 14 y

Derek, this thread really resonates with me. I've been at a crossroads between 2 distinct paths for several years. Path A is a road I've been on for almost 14 yrs, and I've grown weary of it. W/o going into explanation, things have slowed on that road, and won't move forward w/o considerable effort. But I know exactly what needs to be done, there's little risk, it's very practical, and I will have company in the process, which I've come to realize is very important to me. On the other hand, I've always wondered about this Path B, w/o ever having taken any significant steps towards it. So I'd be starting from scratch, and yet it seems much less complex than Path A. I wouldn't have any company for probably a few years on Path B, so it's sure to be a lonely road at first. In the end it would be quite rewarding I'm sure, but I'd be letting down a lot of people by abondoning Path A. And I'm fairly certain that there's not enough time to pursue both Paths and do either one of them justice. Your thoughts on this??? Many thanks...

sivers 15y ago
ABSOLUTELY WITHOUT A DOUBT, choose Path B. Life is f'ing short! When you're old and looking back on your life, you'll mostly remember the changes, the big events. These big changes are the hooks you hang your memories on. You'll always remember that 2012 is the year you chose Plan B. You'll remember this big change in your life, and all the other new experiences it's going to create. This is part of living a full life! This is crucial! 14 years is plenty of time on Path A. You got the benefits out of it. You learned your lessons. You've been there, done that. Time to go! I can't emphasize this enough. I think it's SO important. Every time I've made a major change in my life, it's always turned out for the better. Sometimes I even thought they were failures, in the moment - (divorce, selling my company, etc) - but they always turned out wonderful.
- kickstart 15y ago
  I was afraid you'd say that. Opting for Path B would actually make life a lot easier than you realize. An endless list of very time-consuming tasks disappear if I finally get off Path A, and a huge weight would be lifted from my shoulders. Of course Path B seems the obvious choice. But previous attempts on that path have several times ground to a halt, admittedly because I get in my own way. I can't help but wonder: why am I not pysched? Shouldn't my desire be enough to push me forward? If I knew I wanted it badly enough, would I even need to have this conversation with you? Btw, you and I are acquainted - we went to Berklee together. It'll be something if this exchange ends up being the turning point. Thanks again for taking the time!
  - sivers 15y ago
    > "Why am I not psyched?" Because it's f'ing terrifying! See http://sivers.org/book/WarOfArt http://sivers.org/book/WarOfArt He calls it "resistance". We'll make any excuse not to do the thing that we know is our highest calling.
    - kickstart 15y ago
      Wow, now THAT resonates with me. Big Time. You're right, and I know it, scary though it may be. It shall be Path B. Thanks, Derek!
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sivers 15y ago

ABSOLUTELY WITHOUT A DOUBT, choose Path B. Life is f'ing short! When you're old and looking back on your life, you'll mostly remember the changes, the big events. These big changes are the hooks you hang your memories on. You'll always remember that 2012 is the year you chose Plan B. You'll remember this big change in your life, and all the other new experiences it's going to create. This is part of living a full life! This is crucial! 14 years is plenty of time on Path A. You got the benefits out of it. You learned your lessons. You've been there, done that. Time to go! I can't emphasize this enough. I think it's SO important. Every time I've made a major change in my life, it's always turned out for the better. Sometimes I even thought they were failures, in the moment - (divorce, selling my company, etc) - but they always turned out wonderful.

kickstart 15y ago
I was afraid you'd say that. Opting for Path B would actually make life a lot easier than you realize. An endless list of very time-consuming tasks disappear if I finally get off Path A, and a huge weight would be lifted from my shoulders. Of course Path B seems the obvious choice. But previous attempts on that path have several times ground to a halt, admittedly because I get in my own way. I can't help but wonder: why am I not pysched? Shouldn't my desire be enough to push me forward? If I knew I wanted it badly enough, would I even need to have this conversation with you? Btw, you and I are acquainted - we went to Berklee together. It'll be something if this exchange ends up being the turning point. Thanks again for taking the time!
- sivers 15y ago
  > "Why am I not psyched?" Because it's f'ing terrifying! See http://sivers.org/book/WarOfArt http://sivers.org/book/WarOfArt He calls it "resistance". We'll make any excuse not to do the thing that we know is our highest calling.
  - kickstart 15y ago
    Wow, now THAT resonates with me. Big Time. You're right, and I know it, scary though it may be. It shall be Path B. Thanks, Derek!
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