I think the "loving" half is often not fully loving but other-loving and self-hating. "I feel annoyed that this person is doing this thing. But if I say someth

I think the "loving" half is often not fully loving but other-loving and self-hating. "I feel annoyed that this person is doing this thing. But if I say something, they may feel angry, so I won't say something... And then will fight against myself instead."