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Don't delay daycare for too long. The best teachers for your young kids are often other kids. I have friends who left / kept their kids too long at home either
by kabouseng 3y ago
Don't delay daycare for too long. The best teachers for your young kids are often other kids. I have friends who left / kept their kids too long at home either caring for them themselves or with a nanny, and the kids were developmentally behind. No I don't believe it was permanently, but it is amazing to see how fast your kids learn to crawl, walk, talk as soon as they see how other kids do it. Everyone finds their own path, situations differ, kids differ. Just something to consider. Oh and have fun with the kids sicknesses once they are in daycare, it takes an entire year for their immune systems to adapt :D Still worth it to go earlier rather than later. (My kids went to day care at 4 months which many will say is too early, each to their own, and my wife resigned her job to stay at home, still went to daycare)
- em-bee 3y agoI have friends who left / kept their kids too long at home either caring for them themselves or with a nanny, and the kids were developmentally behind. No I don't believe it was permanently if it wasn't permanently, then why did it matter? what's the benefit of faster development? is there any? in later stages kids growing up faster is associated with missing out on childhood experiences. i don't see much benefit in daycare until kids are two to three years old. that doesn't mean that the kids would be isolated until then. they can still meet other kids and play with them. it doesn't have to be daycare. so barring any evidence of negative effects, both approaches should be equally valid. personally i would optimize for as much parent time as possible. some countries provide up to 3 years of parental leave. they would not do that if it wasn't for the benefit of the children. we were able to afford a household helper, and i am working from home. we let the helper do the chores so i could focus my off-work time on taking care of the kids. i am not spending all time with them, but i am always around.
- DiggyJohnson 3y agoOut of curiosity, in what countries is a three year long parental leave common? It just seems untenable, especially if the leave is compensated at full salary.
- pfannkuchen 3y agoBased on what I’ve seen, there is no state sponsored parental leave program anywhere that is compensated at full salary, except perhaps for very low salaries.
- TheHappyOddish 3y agoI'm unsure what you've seen. Most countries in the world compensate at full salary: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parental_leave#By_continent https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parental_leave#By_continent
- em-bee 3y agoit is usually only for the first part, but not for the whole time, unless the whole time is short. i haven't seen any that pay full salary for more than a year. and 3 years pretty much always had some time unpaid.
- em-bee 3y agowikipedia has a list: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parental_leave#By_continent https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parental_leave#By_continent it also lists pay, which seems to be a range of fully paid for part of the time, then partially paid and finally unpaid. so in many cases you can only get the full 3 years if you can afford it, but having your job protected, knowing that you can go back to it is still better than outright quitting.
- morkalork 3y agoThis is something I've noticed with everyone that has more than one kid, the first is a bit immature for their age and the 2nd and 3rd develop at an accelerated rate. Something about constantly seeing and interacting with another child just 1 or 2 years older than them drives them to advance and try to mimic their behaviour.
- marsven_422 3y ago[dead]