Always optimize for the long term. They should all be able to go to college, get healthcare, food and clothes and housing, but once that’s settled invest in you

Always optimize for the long term. They should all be able to go to college, get healthcare, food and clothes and housing, but once that’s settled invest in your relationship with them. Set them up for long term success. It looks a little different for everyone but I’m sure with your context the solution will be clear.