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> empathy is not a zero sum game. But we are biased to empathize more with women than men, both women and men are biased that way. That is the core of "toxic m
by Jensson 3y ago
> empathy is not a zero sum game.
But we are biased to empathize more with women than men, both women and men are biased that way. That is the core of "toxic masculinity", we need everyone to empathize more with men, but instead due to low empathy for men all they say is "just work on your own problems, it isn't that bad for you!!".
There isn't much you can do in that situation, the low empathy burden men are shouldered with isn't something society wants to deal with, neither the left nor the right.
- JieJie 3y agoIt is a tough cognitive dissonance for most people to hold in their minds: men behaving toxically require more emotional support, not less.
- disqard 3y agoIndeed! When I see ultra-wealthy-but-emotionally-isolated people (the trio pointed out by Jaron Lanier comes to mind [1]), all I feel is pity at their condition. What they need is to be emotionally "nursed" back to wellness, but their sheer wealth has isolated them so much that nobody can connect with them on a "normal" human level anymore. [1] https://www.nytimes.com/2022/11/11/opinion/trump-musk-kanye-twitter.html https://www.nytimes.com/2022/11/11/opinion/trump-musk-kanye-...