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There was a recent comment on HN, which I liked and saved for the future. So it's not 100% for your particular case but maybe helps you.. "Fear is usually base
by leandot 3y ago
There was a recent comment on HN, which I liked and saved for the future. So it's not 100% for your particular case but maybe helps you..
"Fear is usually based in an abstract concern. Try to make it more concrete. What are you actually afraid of?
For example, you're probably not actually afraid of losing your job, but losing your paycheck. But you're not actually afraid of losing your paycheck, you're afraid of not paying your bills. But you're not actually afraid of not paying your bills, you're afraid of being evicted. But you're not actually afraid of being evicted, you're afraid of where you'll live afterwards. And then you realize you haven't actually thought about this situation, so it's just an abstract worry.
So your entire fear base is based on this abstract fear of "What will I do? I'll be screwed." If you dig into it more, you'll find concrete solutions. You might realize you have lots of savings so getting evicted due to not paying rent is really unlikely. And if you do get evicted, you can just go crash at a friend's place while you figure out your next steps. And worst case if no next steps happen, you can live with your parents. Etc etc.
I often find when doing this exercise is that what I'm actually afraid of is very unlikely to happen. It's the worst version of the worst scenario. And even if it does happen, it's actually not that bad and I can handle the situation just fine."
- swah 3y agoMeta comment: Where did you save this / how did you find it again?
- nomilk 3y agoClick on the timestamp of any HN comment, then a 'favorite' link will appear. To find it again, head to your profile -> Favorite comments If you forget to 'favorite' a comment and vaguely remember it, sometimes a google search with site:news.ycombinator.com will do the trick. Another way is you can use the HN searchbar (at the bottom of the page), and when it loads results, switch from searching stories to searching comments. E.g. https://hn.algolia.com/?dateRange=all&page=0&prefix=false&query=Meta%20comment%3A%20Where%20did%20you%20save%20this%20%2F%20how%20did%20you%20find%20it%20again%3F&sort=byPopularity&type=comment https://hn.algolia.com/?dateRange=all&page=0&prefix=false&qu...
- syncbehind 3y agoThank you for this! I had no idea I could fav comments.
- cm2012 3y agoI'm not the original poster but I give this advice all the time, it's great