I think you're talking past the folks upstream because they are talking about "tradeoffs" and you are talking about "not so simple." The point is simply that i

I think you're talking past the folks upstream because they are talking about "tradeoffs" and you are talking about "not so simple." The point is simply that if you pick up and move every time you can get a raise, you are going to end up far from family and thus have that problem. But not doing that has become a more viable choice lately, especially once you understand the downsides of being far from fam ~ what we're talking about here.