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Don't Spy on Your Kids' Phones
- tornato7 3y agoMy entire family has been geo-tracking each other since the early 2000's when my Dad got his hands on some early tech through his work. Never once has it been used in a toxic or controlling way. It's great for peace of mind or figuring out when someone's getting home. Controlling parents will be controlling with or without technology.
- mattpallissard 3y agoI agree. I have 5 kids. So did my parents (alhough tracking wasn't a thing then). Your family tracking you usually isn't the problem, it's social media and big brother. Hence why my teen/pre-teen kids don't have smartphones. If I'm honest it's more a matter of me pushing my tinfoil-hat based agenda than anything.
- catchnear4321 3y agobut how do your kids get two day shipping with prime without asking for help if they don’t have personally identifying phone numbers? how do they watch youtube in the car? there are several gaps in your story.
- Simulacra 3y agoI understand the need to build trust with your children by respecting their privacy, but this is poorly confusing monitoring and supervision with spying.
- akomtu 3y agoOnce neuralink gets its tech working, theatlantic will write "don't spy on your kids' thoughts".
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- dmitrygr 3y ago> Once neuralink gets its tech working Once neuralink gets its tech working, the Atlantic journal will have not existed for nearly 1000 years already.
- anon373839 3y agoAnd Truly Full Self-Driving (TM) will be coming next quarter.
- NoZebra120vClip 3y agoYou shall manage your children's devices with the methods approved by Apple and Google. Any other software is malware, and will be flagged and revoked.
- Natsu 3y agoPersonally I'm more worried about corporations spying on the kids than the parents knowing where they are and what they're doing.
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- pipeline_peak 3y agoOne look at the dirty dancing on TikTok and I can understand parents concern for what their kids consume.
- refreeze654 3y agoSharing location seems very different from the other things discussed in this article. Day-to-day it's convenient to have bi-directional location sharing amongst close family. It's also fairly simple to circumvent in the name of privacy (e.g. 'accidentally' leaving a phone somewhere or having two phones) Reading texts? That's borderline abusive.
- janosdebugs 3y agoThe texts part depends on your perspective. We share most accounts with my wife because we literally have no secrets and it makes life so much easier. We don't really text, but we also grab each other's phone quite often when it's closer than our own. Then again, we don't really use our phones a whole lot either, a battery charge lasts 4-5 days.
- 15457345234 3y ago'We?' That all sounds very odd. > share most accounts with my wife because we literally have no secrets I mean, I don't have secrets either, but if one of my friends from work wants to invite me bowling any scenario that doesn't involve us directly messaging each other seems just convoluted and weird.
- janosdebugs 3y agoMaybe as added context, we have been working together in the same company and team remotely since 2020. We also spend 90+% of the time together, so a scenario you are describing wouldn't happen. We did make separate email aliases as to not confuse other people though :) I guess it all depends on how life is structured.
- 15457345234 3y agoI mean, the article specifically talks about parent/child interactions, so I'm sure you appreciate my confusion.
- paradox242 3y agoI'll definitely be monitoring my son's use of electronic devices when he's a child, but a 19 year old is not a child...
- Am4TIfIsER0ppos 3y agoThat's the government's job!
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- nytesky 3y agoMy teen shares her location with all her friends, so I feel it’s fine for parents. Sure makes pickup from games easier, it’s a River Run school not River Bend school, etc!
- giantg2 3y agoI'm sorry, but you're still tracking your 19 year old and calling them if they don't seem to be in class? They're an adult. If they haven't learned how to be responsible by now, then it's time you let them learn, possibly the hard way. Having tracking capability in an emergency could be good. But my God, when do you expect them to be a fully functioning human if not by 19?
- casefields 3y agoYou’re right, but I bet there’s a sorta defensible position by the parent—they’re footing a massive college education bill so their kid doesn’t go into debt.
- giantg2 3y agoNope, still not a reason. The way you handle it, is you have the kid take out the loan. Then you pay off the amount if the semester was successfully completed. This provides them freedom and autonomy to learn and be responsible. It also provides them with credit history.
- musicale 3y agoUsually universities mandate a "parental contribution" - but the idea of having the student borrow the money and immediately pay it back is interesting. I wonder if the student would be able to get such a loan?
- giantg2 3y agoAt least what I've seen in the US, there's no requirement for a parental contribution. There are some loans that require disclosure of parental assets to determine eligibility.