sorry, I got totally distracted and remembered a strange scene/gag from The IT Crowd ... "The Shoes!" but also this whole comment is probably way more telling o

sorry, I got totally distracted and remembered a strange scene/gag from The IT Crowd ... "The Shoes!" but also this whole comment is probably way more telling of the fact that folks are expecting friendship to just <poof> happen when it really does require conscious, specific effort a lot of the time. We just didn't realize it was so direct when we were all in elementary/highschool/college/firstjob because it was second nature