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Can you please share how you learned leadership, communication, negotiation etc. and how you measured your effectiveness as a manager? This thread is mostly ju

Can you please share how you learned leadership, communication, negotiation etc. and how you measured your effectiveness as a manager? This thread is mostly just like these management books - collections of anecdotes disguised as a training manual. Which is incredibly frustrating since most of them can be applied in that particular situation with those particular people. Are there really no principles that can raise your effectiveness in any situation? Some time ago there was an army manual shared on HN, which taught leadership from first principles. Pure gold, I thought, and read on, until page 4 where the anecdotes of how some captain or other led his men to battle and captured the hill started...

caminante 3y ago
I recommend high output management by Andy Grove. It's widely praised and cited on HN when comments such as yours (rightfully) come up.
ilc 3y ago
Well, you ask a hard question. I learned my basics of leadership in Alpha Phi Omega - National Service Fraternity (also met my wife who is also a brother.) Communication, Alpha Phi Omega, and also a course from Harvard's Negotiation Team, focused on "Difficult Conversations" Negotiations, a course from Harvard's Negotiation Team, focused on "Getting to Yes". I typed out a huge answer to your question, but I realized it'd be better as a discussion. If you want to discuss leadership, I'd be glad to, we'll figure out a way even as anon internet strangers ;).
- XCSme 3y ago
  Your wife is your brother?
  - ilc 3y ago
    All members of the fraternity (Male and Female) are called brothers, a few chapters don't do this, but it is rare, and forced by local school admins. As we say: Incest is best, put your brother to the test. It makes sense that brothers would date. We share a love of community service, many common values, and experiences. Think about how much that simplifies the whole dating thing. https://apo.org/ https://apo.org/

caminante 3y ago

I recommend high output management by Andy Grove. It's widely praised and cited on HN when comments such as yours (rightfully) come up.

ilc 3y ago

Well, you ask a hard question. I learned my basics of leadership in Alpha Phi Omega - National Service Fraternity (also met my wife who is also a brother.) Communication, Alpha Phi Omega, and also a course from Harvard's Negotiation Team, focused on "Difficult Conversations" Negotiations, a course from Harvard's Negotiation Team, focused on "Getting to Yes". I typed out a huge answer to your question, but I realized it'd be better as a discussion. If you want to discuss leadership, I'd be glad to, we'll figure out a way even as anon internet strangers ;).

XCSme 3y ago
Your wife is your brother?
- ilc 3y ago
  All members of the fraternity (Male and Female) are called brothers, a few chapters don't do this, but it is rare, and forced by local school admins. As we say: Incest is best, put your brother to the test. It makes sense that brothers would date. We share a love of community service, many common values, and experiences. Think about how much that simplifies the whole dating thing. https://apo.org/ https://apo.org/