Spouse needs to be well aware of it. My current spouse fully understands that the same thing that makes me successful is also something incredibly annoying that

Spouse needs to be well aware of it. My current spouse fully understands that the same thing that makes me successful is also something incredibly annoying that she needs to pull me out of occasionally. Sometimes the person just needs to remind you of what's important, and your brain can snap to a different mode of operating. Sometimes it is just gonna be a point of contention.