It's not about it being a contest, and while hateful words are hateful no matter how "badly hateful" they are, it's also not fair to just lump all words used in

It's not about it being a contest, and while hateful words are hateful no matter how "badly hateful" they are, it's also not fair to just lump all words used in a hateful way together because it equates words legitimately used to demean, dehumanize, etc. a group of people with ones that are at worst moderately hateful, like boomer, which is what my point is. Basically, a hateful slur is the N-word, boomer is not the N-word, and equating them in any meaningful way belittles the legitimate hatefulness of the N-word. It's disingenuous to say that boomer is as bad at something like "bitch", but they're a lot closer.