While it is slightly about the money, it's mostly about the inequity of work. You say "doing the work"...well, the person with the job is doing 8hrs/day and 40

While it is slightly about the money, it's mostly about the inequity of work. You say "doing the work"...well, the person with the job is doing 8hrs/day and 40hrs/wk to pay for everything. You should be willing to put in some sort of equity of work. If the household chores somehow took anywhere near 40hours a week, sure the argument goes out the window; but the easy solution is go get a job, and then just split the chores down the middle. They don't have to pay for your lifestyle anymore, and there's no argument about being someone's servent. But I don't see what's weird about saying "I don't want to pay and work for someone who does nothing or nowhere near the equivalent". You're retired, you're not doing "the work"...it makes sense that you also contribute.