I felt like that meme "they had us in the first half, not gonna lie" on reading this comment. I initially thought, on reading your first sentence, that you are

I felt like that meme "they had us in the first half, not gonna lie" on reading this comment. I initially thought, on reading your first sentence, that you are trying to be nice/kind to others by paying for them, but then the rest of the comment gave the opposite impression, making it sound like you're infantilising the other person/trying to avoid an unpleasant feeling on your part by pushing it onto someone else.