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Someone mentioned last time this or similar was posted and I agree that this division is totally written from the Asker perspective. Using "guesser" is a deprec

by a1o 3y ago

Someone mentioned last time this or similar was posted and I agree that this division is totally written from the Asker perspective. Using "guesser" is a deprecating word. It's the person that has empathy and think about others.

crazygringo 3y ago
No, I think you're missing the point the neither is correct/better, and it's certainly not about which one is more empathetic or thoughtful. "Guesser" doesn't seem deprecating at all. You might as well say "asker" sounds demanding and impertinent, but it's not meant to be either. And you could just as easily say that askers are the ones who empathize and think about others because they want to avoid misunderstandings and stress by just being direct. But at the end of the day, it's just different communication styles. It's a valid and real distinction, and neither is "right". Or, they're both right.
- a1o 3y ago
  You are missing the point, the "Asker" can be a demanding idiot, but if you frame as "just asking" it tries to absorb any blame as it puts the burden of figuring out things at whoever has to answer. I think this dynamic analysis is written from an "Asker" perspective and this reflects in the choice of words.
  - crazygringo 3y ago
    No I'm sorry but you are continuing to miss the point. Sure, the asker can be a "demanding idiot". But a guesser can also expect everyone to be able to read their mind -- which is being just as much of a "demanding idiot". You seem to actually be insisting that one cultural pattern is better than the other, when there's simply no objective basis for that assertion whatsoever. You're concluding that the article/analysis is written from one bias, but I think it's actually revealing your own personal bias here. The article seems entirely objective and neutral to both viewpoints, whereas your reactions are clearly not.

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Someone mentioned last time this or similar was posted and I agree that this division is totally written from the Asker perspective. Using "guesser" is a deprec

by a1o 3y ago

crazygringo 3y ago
No, I think you're missing the point the neither is correct/better, and it's certainly not about which one is more empathetic or thoughtful. "Guesser" doesn't seem deprecating at all. You might as well say "asker" sounds demanding and impertinent, but it's not meant to be either. And you could just as easily say that askers are the ones who empathize and think about others because they want to avoid misunderstandings and stress by just being direct. But at the end of the day, it's just different communication styles. It's a valid and real distinction, and neither is "right". Or, they're both right.
- a1o 3y ago
  You are missing the point, the "Asker" can be a demanding idiot, but if you frame as "just asking" it tries to absorb any blame as it puts the burden of figuring out things at whoever has to answer. I think this dynamic analysis is written from an "Asker" perspective and this reflects in the choice of words.
  - crazygringo 3y ago
    No I'm sorry but you are continuing to miss the point. Sure, the asker can be a "demanding idiot". But a guesser can also expect everyone to be able to read their mind -- which is being just as much of a "demanding idiot". You seem to actually be insisting that one cultural pattern is better than the other, when there's simply no objective basis for that assertion whatsoever. You're concluding that the article/analysis is written from one bias, but I think it's actually revealing your own personal bias here. The article seems entirely objective and neutral to both viewpoints, whereas your reactions are clearly not.